How to Celebrate Valentine's Day in a New Relationship
We get it. Not having your person close by on Valentine's Day majorly sucks. But it doesn't have to be a day you dread! There are so many cute ways to celebrate Valentine's Day when you're in a long-distance relationship, and while it might not be as great as if you were together IRL, it can still be v fun. (And sexy. More on that later.)
Plus, it's important. Acknowledging that, hi, you've worked hard at maintaining your relationship and celebrating how far you've come is invaluable. Trust, you'll be so glad you did something, even if it's small.
You don't have to go above and beyond to make long-distance Valentine's Day great. Ultimately, it's the thought that counts, so whether you send your lover a handwritten card, or you buy them that cologne they've had their eye on for months, they'll appreciate any and all loving gestures.
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Below, 30 romantic ways to celebrate Valentine's Day in a long-distance relationship that are actually fun. Promise!
1.Plan a trip together
Get on the phone (or FaceTime, Zoom—whatever your preferred method of LDR communication!), make a Google spreadsheet, and plan a vacation together to somewhere neither of you has ever been. One of you looks for flight deals, the other looks for hotels, then bounce ideas off each other for activities, transportation, shows, you know the drill. Then, when you're ready, bite the bullet and book it. (Or book it at the time!) Having something to look forward to can make the distance feel a little less daunting.
2. Buy them a Cameo.
Some of your partner's favorite celebs might be on Cameo—a service where you pay to have a famous person record a personalized video for you or someone you love. Some standouts: Tom Felton (aka Draco Malfoy from Harry Potter) Brian Cox from Succession, Ice T–casual!
3. Get them a singing telegram.
Maybe talk to their boss or their roommate first, but if you're 100% sure your partner isn't going to get fired for receiving a singing telegram on V-Day, this is a cute, LOL-worthy option. Yes, you can pay for a service to send someone dressed up like a heart (or a Cupid, costumes vary by company) to serenade your partner at home or at the office. It can be a real hoot for them and their co-workers if you know it'll be a welcome surprise!
4. Eat cake by the ocean. (Like, literally or via a Zoom background.)
Maybe the beach is your backyard. Maybe it's not. Whatever the case, surprise your partner with a customized cake for V-Day and one for yourself (check out these ones by Bake Me a Wish!), get a fork, go outside, and pretend like you're celebrating together via FaceTime or Zoom.
The ambiance of some fresh air + the cake makes it less likely you'll be sad you're not physically with your partner. Plus, cake makes everything better. Period.
5. Have some fun with a virtual couple's sex toy.
Told you long-distance V-Day could be sexy. Sex toy brands like We-Vibe and Satisfyer both have apps that can be downloaded on your phone. So when you purchase a vibrator or sex toy compatible with the app, you can control the pressure, speed pulses, etc. all from within the app itself.
The best part: With consent from you, it also lets your partner control your toy from their phone too. This means that no matter the distance, your partner can join you during your masturbation session. Hot.
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6. Take a sex class together.
Seriously, book a sex-oriented virtual class together. Whether it focuses on cunnilingus, tantra sex, sex toys, or whatever else, it'll be a fun experience that can bring you together.
Alternative suggestion: Tyomi Morgan, one of Cosmo's regular experts, offers an amazing cowgirl-riding class for $250 individually or a monthly membership of $25. One Cosmopolitan writer wrote in a previous article: "Above just a way to learn about becoming an A+ dick rider, this workout is a safe place to work on your confidence, show yourself that you can be sexy with or without a partner, and help alleviate any built-up tension or anxiety you may be experiencing." Try it and then show your partner all you ~learned~ via Zoom.
7. Listen to audio porn together.
If you prefer the sounds to the visuals of porn (hi, yes, same), audio porn may be your new fave thing. And what's hotter than listening to porn with your partner on the sexiest day of the year? Apps like Dipsea feature short-form audio stories that "spark couples' imaginations and get them in the mood, no matter how far apart they are." So yeah, consider this a sure-fire way to spice up your V-Day date night festivities.
8. Mentally and emotionally check in with each other.
If you're a big Words of Affirmation couple, journaling is The Move. Use it as a method to check in with your partner this V-Day. You can invest in these sweet Partner Appreciation Notes, where each of you writes something you appreciate about the other every day—then share it with each other on V-Day. Or you can buy a Date Deck like this one, which prompts you with 50 conversation starters as a lil V-Day game to take the pressure off monotonous conversation.
9. Stream a movie or show at the same time online.
Sooo... you're dying to watch a new series that just dropped on Netflix, but you want to enjoy it with your person. Fair! Stream the same show at the same time and maintain communication through text or FaceTime, so you can get all their juicy reactions and even eat the same snacks to make it feel like you're really together. Better yet, try Teleparty, a Chrome extension that lets you watch simultaneously with someone (or several people) without having to sync up together manually.
10. Play a not-boring card game together.
Both of you can head over to your nearest store (or hit up Amazon Prime, obvi) and grab a game of Cards Against Humanity, Truth or Dare, or Taboo to add some excitement and competition to your night of video-chatting. If you want to spice it up, grab Serena Kerrigan's Let's Fucking Fuck game, for sexy questions that get hotter as the game progresses.
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11. Take a matching pic in different places.
We promise, it's cute. Put your photography and Photoshop skills to the test by meshing together two separately taken pics in completely different locations. You can play around with poses, objects, and scenery to create an artsy version of a photo you two would have taken if you were physically together.
12. Play with some arts and crafts together.
Grab your crafting supplies and get that creativity flowing. Your virtual crafting date can include painting on a canvas, sculpting with clay, or decorating a plain box or scrapbook. You can even turn to Pinterest for some cute DIY project ideas that you'll both enjoy.
If DIY is so not your thing, do a quick Google search for virtual sip-and-play classes. Find one you like and create a masterpiece.
13. Enjoy a sunrise or sunset together.
Whether it's at the beach, on a rooftop, or from your bedroom window, coordinate a time to video-chat that coincides with the sun setting or rising. If time zones are a problem, share your sunset/sunrise with them through video and vice versa.
14. Gift them a Spotify playlist.
Include all the bops that remind you of your boo, plus the songs that have a special meaning to you and your relationship—like the song that was playing the first time you were in the car together, or maybe even the song a passerby was humming while you shared your first kiss. Keep the playlist private between only you two and listen whenever you're feeling lonely.
Alternative suggestion: Using Spotify's Group Sessions feature, share your fave songs with your partner in a playlist, or send each other prompts like "Play a song that reminds you of me" and "Play a song that will always have a special place in your heart." It's the easiest, best way to get to know your partner on a ~deeper~ level.
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15. Arrange a FaceTime dinner date.
Amp up your normal FaceTime sessions by "going on a date together." Both of you can cook your own favorite meals and then set them up in front of your camera to have a virtual dinner date. Want to make it official? Try a virtual cooking class together. (Seriously, they're all over Google.)
Oh, and obviously you'll want some dessert too, so make it easy by sending them their fave sweet via delivery.
16. Have their favorite meal delivered.
If you're not big on cooking, you can still have a virtual dinner date. Punch in their address on your fave delivery app and surprise them by sending their go-to take-out order. Nothing says "love" like pad thai.
17. Make a photo spread of all your favorite mems.
Think: coasters from bars, plane tickets from flying to see each other, football ticket stubs, photos, etc. and collage them on a canvas they can hang up in their room. Construct all this on Valentine's Day together, or gift it to them and talk about all the memories via FaceTime.
18. Write in a journal for 365 days, or a week, or a month, or whatever timeline makes sense to you.
Document all your thoughts, how your day went, and what reminds you of your partner, and gift it to them when you've filled up all the pages. This will give them insight into your brain and remind them of how often you think of them.
19. Send a video message.
Whether you're singing and dancing to your song or reading a heart-felt love note out loud, sometimes it can be so much more intimate and lovely for your partner to see and hear you rather than reading something themselves.
20. Send them something handmade.
A gift doesn't need to be expensive to be good. A heartfelt card, photo album, or any gift you've made yourself shows you put time and thought into it, and will serve as a reminder of how much you care even when you're not physically around.
21. Mail them letters leading up to V-Day.
When the only form of contact between you two is communication over the phone or computer, switching it up can be a little tricky. A week or so leading up to V-Day, start sending your significant other love letters (or print out pictures of you two and send them as postcards) in the mail. Receiving mail that isn't a bill or an Amazon package these days is rare, which will make your love note even more special and fun to receive.
22. Mail them a care package of their favorite things.
Fill a box with a few of their favorite things, whether it's sweets you can only get from a local shop by your place, or a sweatshirt with your signature scent sprayed on it—little mementos will let them know you're thinking of them.
23. Give them a bunch of letters to open at different times.
Long-distance relationships are as hard as they sound, and spending holidays like Valentine's Day apart make them even harder. Fill envelopes with small gifts and sweet letters to cheer up your loved one based on how they're feeling at that moment. Label the outside of each envelope with instructions of when to open them, like "for when you're missing me" and "for when you're feeling lonely."
24. Count down the days until you see each other again by filling a jar with slips of paper detailing things you love about them.
Write as many notes as you have days left, so that each day they can draw one out of the jar to make passing the time a little bit easier. Send them the jar in the mail or give it to them in person when you see each other before Valentine's Day.
25. Be the first person they hear in the morning and the last person they hear at night.
Get up a little early on V-Day and call your significant other first thing. If you're used to saving your daily phone calls for nighttime, this will be a sweet little surprise to wake up to. After your busy day, fall asleep talking on the phone at night so it almost feels like you're right there with them.
26. Plan a V-Day celebration a little off-season.
You don't have to celebrate Valentine's Day on February 14. If the next time you'll see each other is in March, surprise them and plan a full-out Valentine's Day date for that day instead. They really won't see it coming, and that'll make it all the better.
27. Send a package full of goodies and love notes to your partner's roommate or friend...
Then, have them lay out the gifts all over your significant other's room when they're not looking. They'll be shocked to walk in to find handwritten letters and thoughtful surprises from you.
28. Take advantage of delivery services and surprise them with their favorite adult bev.
Have a delivery service like Drizly drop off a bottle of your partner's favorite drink, so you can celebrate together and cheers over FaceTime.
29. Show up IRL.
What's more romantic than showing up when you're not expecting to see each other? If you can swing the expense of some extra gas money and the time off from work, the ultimate gift you can give your significant other is time spent together on arguably the most romantic day of the year.
30. Even better, meet up somewhere else.
Flying or driving back and forth can get a bit redundant, so celebrate Valentine's Day with a trip elsewhere instead. Even if it's just a staycation somewhere local, a change of scenery will make it feel more like a special occasion than your usual trips back and forth.
Veronica Lopez Veronica is a sex and relationships editor at Cosmo, where she covers all things health, dating, identity, sex, and more.
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How to Celebrate Valentine's Day in a New Relationship
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